Amygdala Hijacking in Joy and Anger – Reasoning on the after-effects

It’s weird the conflicting feelings you get with anger. Anger, as I understand it, is a result of broken expectations…people or things violating what you believe supposed to happen. I always get a sense of guilt associated with anger. The guilt washes over and intermingles with the anger as the anger is cooling off.

I don’t feel the conflict with the experience of happiness. As happiness cools down there’s a return to normalcy rather than a contemplation or second guessing of that happiness.

I wonder if the guilt feeling after the anger cool down is a result of the amygdala releasing control of the consciousness back to the cortex. When the release of control happens we move from acting and thinking based on emotion to thinking with logic. Logic can be confusing since we are social animals and have a tendency to want to reconcile differences rather than move forward in a state of turmoil.

That’s probably why happiness doesn’t have the same cool down reaction. It’s imagine that when we experience joy the amygdala also hijacks control from the cortex, but when the cool down happens the cortex only has to reflect on the social connections/successes we’ve made during the joyous event, which is not counter to our tendency to be social animals. – Carl

Real Connections Aren’t Pretty

This is about the need for real human interaction in our future conversations. It’s about staying in touch with real life while I’m away – at war. Real human interaction! Everyone thinks they should shelter the Soldiers while they are away, but missing out on life back home is the worst part of a deployment. I yearn to know what is going on. On the other hand, I couldn’t care less about the weather. So why do you keep telling me about how hot it is?

You say we shouldn’t talk about touchy topics, that we should ignore the issue until we have a cooling period…How long is the cooling period, for heated issues, before you can talk it out? Who decides when the cooling period is over? How far does the anxiety level have to drop before the discussion is had? How do you measure that? Can the anxiety level even drop before the discussion is had? If the anxiety level cannot drop without a discussion to make it drop…do we never talk again because we are scared of a little fight?

That’s my fear. I’m scared that fear of the controversial conversation leads to limited discussion…and eventually limited discussion leads to pointless interaction…pointless interaction mixed with anxiety of a possible real discussion leads to avoidance…avoidance leads to exclusion. A little pocket book of quotes I had said, “Everyone you meet wears an invisible sign around their neck that reads “Make me feel special.”” Exclusion, bred by waiting for the cool down period to end, is the antithesis of making people feel special. What would be worse: me being argumentative with you on occasion or me not talking to you? Which is more aggressive in attacking another person’s feeling of importance in your life – exclusion or conflict?

I need to deal with life while I’m deployed. Please don’t exclude me. If we can’t handle life virtually…if we can’t discuss life with use of the internet…then I miss out on getting to know you. Conflicts will arise. Conflicts have arisen. Would you rather I didn’t call or that we work it out with a little conflict? -Carl