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The Suffering/Mattering Equation

I see it as a mixed problem. I want what I do in my life to matter…and not just matter a little, but matter a lot. After all, I’m suffering through this life. I struggle every day. I have lots of good moments every day, more good than bad, but I can’t say that there is a single day that goes by when I don’t suffer, want, or hurt in some way physically, mentally, or emotionally. We all struggle through our lives. With that idea in mind, I want my life to count for some shit.

So, mattering a little isn’t good enough for me. How do I increase my amount of mattering? I influence more lives. How can I best influence more lives? Well, I can work my way to the top of an organization, increase my responsibility, and in the process make more money while influencing more lives. But doing this will increase the amount of work I have to do, thereby diminishing my free time, and increasing my anxiety, worry, and overall suffering.

I’ve come to this troubling conclusion. I want my life to matter because I’m suffering through my life, so I want my life to count for something. But in order for my life to count for something I need to work harder and take on larger tasks, which will increase my suffering. This is some cruel ass game. Carl Miller


2 responses to “The Suffering/Mattering Equation

  1. wsickert

    The DSM fails to account for co-diagnosis or “multi-disorders”
    If a loved one has obsessive-compulsive disorder, they’re likely to struggle with other anxiety disorders as well. Depression co-occurs with anxiety 60 percent of the time. All this is unexplained by the DSM. The only way to account for high rates of comorbidity or “co-diagnosis” is that many disorders are driven by the same underlying or Bill BIG word ….(trans-diagnostic) mechanisms. Rumination, or “stewing” for example, is a major driver for both depression and anxiety — that’s why they are so often seen together. Though rumination may focus on different things (e.g., personal failures in depression vs. future catastrophes in anxiety) it is a required target of treatment across both diagnoses.

    In light of its failures, one might reasonably ask: why a new DSM? In truth, this fifth edition is just moving a few deck chairs on a sinking ship…..seriously! Dumping the multi-diagnosis system and Asperger’s disorder while adding binge eating, hoarding, and excoriation disorder (skin picking) has brought us no closer to a classification system that explains what’s wrong and guides evidence-based treatment decisions. Soon we’ll need to finish what the NIMH started — lower the lid, hammer it down, and bury the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders.
    Natural approaches such and Qsciences and Q96 have more positive clinical science for brain/mood disorders than Pfizer and Lilly combined. 14 years of success buried under Prozac dollars is a pathetic reality of our drug culture. for a wake-up call and to remedy the situation. Email for the free report and clinical synopsis. The aforementioned paragraphs must stop; A hard pill to swallow?


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